If you have decided to end your relationship, you need to decide how and when you will communicate with your Ex. If you are having difficulty “letting go”, it is very important that you minimize your contacts with your Ex. If you have children together, you will probably need to maintain some degree of communication. Child psychology experts are in agreement that it is detrimental to children to “put them in the middle” of such communications either by giving them personal messages or by using them to deliver letters, notes, etc.
Before the internet age, parties were forced to either send a letter or communicate by phone. Today, E-Mail is highly preferred in situations where the parties are communicating poorly. E-Mail has several advantages to telephone or written communications: It is quick, self documenting (although you may have problems getting E-Mail admitted as written evidence in court proceedings) and the communication can be re-edited multiple times to remove anything that is overly emotional or incendiary.
Therefore, while telephone contact still has the advantage of immediacy and letters have the advantage of being permanent, I highly recommend communicating by E-Mail in difficult situations.
Barry Lewis, Attorney at Law - Divorce Lawyer Massachusetts - http://www.DivorceLawyerMa.comTags: Communicating with your ex, Divorce Communication, Family Law Communication