Archive for November, 2009

Danger! Danger! Danger! How to avoid a Restraining Order!

Friday, November 27th, 2009

It happens over and over again. The subject of divorce comes up -or- a divorce case is filed and bang! The other spouse runs out and convinces a judge that they are in fear of “imminent physical harm” and gets an ex parte (without notice) restraining order. Unfortunately, there are too many instances of serious domestic violence in our society. But, in many instances the only real fear involved is the fear that the Judge has of bad publicity! Viewed from the standpoint of the judge - if he has 1000 people asking for a restraining order and he turns them down and only 1 party goes “postal” the Judge’s picture will be on the front page of the papers. There are many judges that will rarely turn down any request for a restraining order no matter how flimsy the basis! The mere presence of a restraining order can prevent one from working in certain fields (notably education and health care), make visiting with your children much more difficult and a vindictive spouse (or ex-spouse) can even use alleged violations to have you incarcerated!

There are a number of ways to fight a restraining order:

First - Avoid being alone with your spouse! If you must engage your spouse in conversations, do so in a public place and try to keep them calm! If your spouse shows signs of losing it, leave! When the police are called it is usually the man who is taken away.

Second - If you can’t remain calm - don’t contact your spouse and if you find yourself losing it - leave!

Third - Never threaten your spouse or assault your spouse physically in any manner - this includes breaking things and throwing things (The cases of things being thrown in the kitchen are legion!)

Lastly, if your spouse does obtain a restraining order - strongly consider fighting the restraining order. An experienced attorney can review the facts of the situation and give you an opinion as to whether you have a chance of convincing the Court to drop the restraining order.

Barry Lewis, Attorney at Law - Divorce Lawyer Massachusetts - http://www.DivorceLawyerMa.com

What Happens to the House?

Tuesday, November 3rd, 2009

One of the most common questions that we get from divorce clients is: “What will happen to my House if I get divorced?”. Courts usually have the power to order the sale of the marital home. However, the status of the marital home during and after a divorce case depends on whether there are children residing in the home and whether one party can “buy out” the interest of the other or there are other assets to offset the equity in the home

The first consideration is usually whether minor children are residing in the home. If there are children living in the house and it has been their home for a period of time, the Courts are usually very reluctant to order the home sold (absent extenuating circumstances - such as a severe mortgage delinquency or pending foreclosure) and the children uprooted. This is especially true earlier in a divorce action. Usually, the Court will give the party residing in the house a chance to come up with a plan to make the mortgage payments and retain the property. Judges would much rather give the parties the time to craft their own plan and on their own terms as to the disposition of the marital home than enter an order for it’s sale. If the case goes to trial and the Judge is forced to make a decision as to the sale of the marital home, it is likely that the Court will still not order the marital home sold until the children are emancipated. It is usually said that the non-resident spouse (usually the father) has an “illiquid asset” when there are children residing in the house. However, it is possible that the Court would offset the equity in the marital home against the value of other assets (such as retirement assets).

When there are no minor children residing in the house, the immediate sale of the marital home is much more likely. This is especially true if the equity in the marital home represents the primary marital asset or bulk of the marital assets. If there are substantial other assets, they can often be utilized to offset some or all of the equity in the marital home. Although judges are usually amenable to giving either spouse the opportunity to “buy out” the other spouse’s interest in the home, they are also cognizant of the fact that this is often impractical.

If a “buy out” is to happen, the equity in the home must be established. Certified real estate appraisers are often utilized. The appraisal(s) are then coupled with a formula (such as 50-50) to establish each spouse’s interest. When the home is sold, the valuation is usually straightforward. Assuming an arm’s length transaction, the value is the sales price.

Lastly, it should be mentioned that in the current soft real estate there is a greater reluctance to sell real estate. Even though the parties agree to sell the marital home or the court orders it sale, the property may remain on the market unsold for an extended period of time.

Barry Lewis, Attorney at Law - Divorce Lawyer Massachusetts - http://www.DivorceLawyerMa.com